Today’s post is for anyone who’s in need of something uplifting to help you through a difficult time in your life.
We’re going to talk about how to weather the storm when life gets messy, and how to find calm in the midst of a chaotic life.
Logically, you know that this difficult time in your life will pass, but that doesn’t stop you from feeling like you’ve been stuck in place.
⇢ Time is flying by at a faster and faster pace.
⇢And even though, you know that you have to make a change you keep pushing things back. ⇢This inaction is partially due to a fear of failure, but mostly due to the fact that there’s so much going on that you simply don’t know where (or how) to start picking up the pieces.
Did I get that right?
If this is where you are right now, then I want you to truly take in the next thing I’m about to say to you.
This tough time that you’re living right now is a season of your life, not the entire story.
In the words of Tina Knowles:
“If you’re going through it just know it’s called going THROUGH it.
You’re not going to get stuck there. You’re not going to die. You’re going to survive.”
The #1 thing that pulled me through every storm I’ve experienced was knowing (and constantly reminding myself) that my storms were temporary.
I know that it feels like it, but you’re not stuck and the chaos surrounding you is not your new normal.
Things will get better and life is working out for you as we speak.
Takeaway point: Remind yourself that this period of your life is a season, and spring is so much closer than you realize.
No matter how big , every storm passes, and this is no exception.
Persist, be patient, and trust that even though you can’t see it, things are already getting better.
You’re not only going to survive but you’re going to come out of this storm even better than before.
And that brings me to my second point.
“Not all storms come to disrupt your life. Some come to clear the path.”
I know that this may be the last thing that you want to hear right now, but indulge me for a few seconds…
What if this difficult time of your life was working for you as opposed to against you?
I challenge you to try this out with me:
Instead of asking the question, “why is this happening to me”, ask yourself “how is this happening for me”.
You’re experiencing a major shake up in your life, but if we were to make a shift and imagine that a new path is being cleared for you to do greater things, how would that change things for you?
The second takeaway point: Practice your skills of perspective taking and foresight.
1. What is the lesson to be learned here?
2. How is this working for me as opposed to against me?
3. How is this developing me as a person and preparing me for the future?
And now for the final thing that I want to to take away today:
There is still good in your life.
Seek it out, acknowledge it, and lean into it.
When things get messy, it’s easy to feel like your whole life is in shambles.
But 99% of the times, this is not the case.
Something is going well for you right now, but it’s overshadowed by the dark cloud in your life.
So before we go any further, I want you to stop reading and identify what that thing is.
🛑 Before moving on, think of one thing that is going well for you in your life in this moment 🛑
Once you’ve identified something that’s going well. Lean into it.
If your health is the good thing in your life, set new fitness goals and have fun with it
If your relationships are going well, spend more time with your loved ones.
If your spirituality is the good thing, explore it more deeply.
This isn’t about avoiding your problems.
This is about giving yourself a dedicated pocket of time for you to feel good, soak in some peace, and enjoy the feeling of having something go right in your life.
This is also about regaining a sense of control and tranquility in your life.
We've reached the end of today’s talk and I know that was a lot to take in. So to help you apply all of this I’ve created a short work book to take you through the steps.
You can download that below.
Until the next time