How to Be Happy While Single
“Until you get comfortable with being alone, you’ll never know if you’re choosing someone out of love or loneliness”
I get it, being single can suck.
This is especially true if you’re surrounded by happily coupled friends and family
and when you’ve reached the point where the idea of swiping through another profile makes you want to throw your whole phone away.
It can be frustrating, and when that loneliness kicks in- it stings.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Being single is your time to self indulge, pursue your passions, skyrocket your personal growth, figure out what you want to do with your life and the list goes on and on… and on.
Being single can be fun and this is your moment.
Some of you may be resistant to this idea because you worry that by embracing the single life, you’re giving up on finding “the one”.
But here’s the thing, learning how to love your own company is not only the key to being happy right now, but it’s also the key to ensuring that you don’t settle for less than you’ve desired and know you deserve.
It puts you in the driver’s seat of your love life.
And that age-old saying is spot-on:
“It’s better to be happy alone than miserable with someone else.”
So, how do you kick the single blues to the curb and start living your best life while single?
Keep reading for 3 quick tips…
1. Monitor Your Media
Watch your social media, movie, and music intake.
Seeing endless photos of bae-cations on Instagram is not going to do you any good.
Now I’m not saying that you have to go deleting everyone in a relationship,
but muting the profiles that are all relationships all the time for a month or so will work wonders.
Social media is the obvious culprit when it comes to monitoring media
But this step also applies to the shows/movies you watch, and the songs you listen to.
I’m not suggesting you become a romance hater and ban all love songs/ forbid yourself from watching anything that has to do with love.
I would still sing love songs at the top of my lungs (sorry neighbors) when I was single.
But I balanced it out with some empowering kick-ass single songs too.
Some song recommendations are:
Single by Natasha Bedingfield
Thank u, next by Ariana Grande
Truth Hurts, Soulmate and Good as Hell by Lizzo
... really anything by Lizzo will do the job here.
Also Movies like Nappily Ever After are a great reminder that a relationship isn’t the end all be all, and that you can begin living a complete and happy life even when you’re single.
2. Date Yourself and Step Up Your Self-Love Game
One way to do this is to have weekly self-dates.
By having a weekly self-date, I simply mean that you should plan to do something you enjoy, every week.
Weekly self dates are a great way to show yourself some love and they help you learn to love your own company.
(This is also a great thing to do even if/when you’re no longer single).
A second tip that goes along with this step is to self indulge.
Treat Yourself and Take Care of You. The idea here is for you to feel your best.
So do your hair, get your nails done and shave your legs during the winter - even if you’re the only one who’ll get to feel how smooth they are.
Don’t allow being single to stop you from being the best version of yourself.
And finally, practice some self-love by treating yourself the way you’d like your partner to treat you.
Shower yourself with compliments and buy yourself flowers.
You’re worth it and you shouldn’t wait for someone else to show you that.
3. Start Pursuing Your Life Goals
Use this time to create and pursue a goal, dream or passion that you’ve been wanting to try.
Because when you’re in a relationship, you’ll be splitting your time with your significant other and will likely have less time to do it then.
This is your moment to develop your career, build that business, start a blog, travel with friends (or solo), learn how to paint, pursue that degree (and the list goes on).
Life is all about perspective and making a simple perspective shift can be the thing that allows you to enjoy being single, instead of being sad by it.
ｘStop looking at this period as a time in your life where you’re waiting to meet the right person and tolerating being alone and instead
✓Start looking at it as a period of independence, freedom, and opportunity to do what you want to do- without compromise.
Also on a more practical note, being single sucks a lot less when you have a lot going on for you.
The Life Planner is the Perfect tool for this Step.
It'll help you to:
Create a vision for the future
Make a plan on how to get there and
Develop a system to get organized, track your progress and achieve your goals.
There you have it! Three things that you can try to be happier while single. And while I can't promise that there won't be moments where the single blues hit (especially on days like Valentine's), practicing these three things will help you to make the most out of this liberating time of your life.
Hope this helped! Until the next time,