In the last post, we talked about how goal setting was important for prompting fresh starts, avoiding unfulfilling cycles and taking control of your next chapter.
We also talked about what to do if you were experiencing goal fatigue.
At the end of that post, I promised to share what is often the missing key to achieving goals.
So, let’s get into it.
In coaching, we have the Be-Do-Have model.
Simply put, the model states that:
Your outcomes (what you have) are a reflection of your habits (what you do)
And your habits are determined by your identity (who you are being).
When setting new goals, most people only think about what they have to do differently and completely forget about the other half of the equation: who they have to be in order to make things happen.
When you skip the first step of identifying who you have to become and embodying that person, the journey towards achieving your goals turns into a struggle because the new actions you attempt are unaligned.
Unaligned action is a problem because if what we do, does not match who we are, we feel like we’re faking it
And it’s from faking it that issues such as imposter syndrome, procrastination and other self-sabotaging behaviours arise.
If you’ve found yourself trapped in this cycle, don’t worry. We’ve all been there. And fortunately, the fix is pretty straightforward. But more on that next week.
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